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Health, Lifestyle

Remember, You Can’t Make Everyone Happy. Keep Your Sanity!

Keep Your Sanity by Doing These Four Things.

 

There are  people who aren’t deserving of your worth. It can be a so called friend, family member, or even a manager etc…

The fact that you consistently receiving negative feedback regardless of how hard you try, you start playing these scenarios in your head: “Maybe if I go the extra mile, they’ll like me better.  Maybe if I stop showing up, I’ll be less loved. Maybe, I need to stick around longer, things will get better”.

Stop, just stop!!! I want you to get of your head now and be aware of these four things that will keep you sane.

Number 1.

Say “no” to any requests that doesn’t match your priorities. Before you commit yourself to any tasks, be it for work or aspects in life, ask yourself if it’s aligned with your purpose and priority? Especially, if you already know that it won’t be appreciated.

Number 2.

Know every details before you take on responsibilities that aren’t yours. The last thing you want is providing help that turns out to be a complete nightmare. If you know, it’s something that you don’t have much information or understanding about, find out more before saying “yes”.

Number 3.

Stop appearing for people who are indifferent to your presence. You are not for everyone, and they are not all for you. So, stop giving your love and energy to people who aren’t reciprocate.

Number 4.

Embrace the people that are rooting for your well-being. You have already experienced what is not a healthy relationship; therefore, you know when you have some genuine people around you. It feels special.

Remember, when you stay away from people who are driving you nuts; it doesn’t mean you ruined a relationship. It simply means that you have the balls to go to another community that craves you.
Yes, you can sill continue to love them, but from far way, with another perspective.
Until next time.
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Werk Pray Slay Weekend Recap: Mental Burden of Student Loans

Week Pray Slay Weekend Recap: Mental Burden of Student Loans

I have recently moved from Philadelphia to Atlanta a month ago and Werk Pray Slay was by far my best conference in years because it gave me perspectives from different sides of life and business ; either financial, mental, spiritual and emotional. Can you imagine a group of women, from different backgrounds and businesses in the same room? I have been in conference where the people are within the same company (nothing wrong with that), but sitting next to someone that can either built your website, teach you how to create your business’ elevator speech, find you a rental property, create a business plan etc…is theeee best atmosphere.

One of the things that grabbed my attention was the Student Loan Doctor, Sonia Lewis. Sonia started the business to really help her figuring out a plan for her own student loans, then  started to help a few people figure out a plan for themselves but really didn’t think this would turn into a major business. Her business is now growing and have received  recognitions from the city of Philadelphia. (Sonia in the middle)

 

When I first read an article about Sonia, I didn’t really spend time reading because I don’t have student loans, but came to this event to find out that she is not only helping  those with students to create a plan for themselves, but for their kids as well.
Our community is sinking in student loans debt. According to  New York Times, the average Black family in America has one-tenth the wealth of the average White Americans. The black household was about 50,000 compared to 59,000 Hispanic and 68,000 for white; therefore, people can rely on these loans to get by. In addition, African women have the most degrees in the United States; however, we have the most student loans debt. An AA woman who is debt free by the age of 39-41, will likely go into debt once again with a parent plus loans  because she spent most of her time paying  her student loans and not saving for a her kids college funds. Parent loans have higher interest and this constant financial burden will drive you insane. Now, she spent all her lifetime paying for student loans, became sick, passed away without leaving any wealth to pass on to her children.


How can we change the conversation?  If a child gets a scholarship or if a woman/man earns at a certain point, she may be excluded from the latter part. Moreover it is important as parents or guardians to not push our kids right after high school just because they are grown and you want them to experience life just like you did. You are not helping the situation because not only you spent your life fighting these financial and mental demons but you are creating the same path for your kids as well.


One thing that I am forever grateful for is the fact that my parents helped me through college, I was welcomed to stay until I finish school. When I started school in this country, I was an international student; therefore, I have to pay out of pocket and out of states fees. I wasn’t qualify for financial aid but I’m grateful to have a bachelor’s degree without owning a PENNY.   I knew the best way to get by was scholarship. I kept applying every time I get a chance and it could be between $500 to 1500 per semester.  Also, by attending a community college in the first two years, I was able to secure almost a full scholarship just because it was for students who attended a community college in the state of Florida.

None of these made since back then, I just didn’t want mom to get a loans to give me that extra boost. Seeing now how the student loans crisis is outrageous, I am thankful that I did it that way. Moral of the story; there are tons of scholarship for various reasons and all you have to do is applying.

Stop creating the same environment you had as a child for your kids. Talk to them about career choice, what they enjoy to do, financial decisions for school. Instead of sending them away just because you think they are grown and should get a loan  to get by, sit with them and start looking for scholarship, explain them the benefits of attending a community college instead of a private school. They can always transfer after the first two years. Nevertheless, if they find a full ride for a 4 year university that will be amazing. Many people are going through these burdens, financial uncertainty because they didn’t have someone to mentor them about the aftermath of a $100,000 loan. Sadly, may are still confused  about career choice and worried  about loans repayment.
The Student Loans Doctor is changing that narrative by providing more knowledge, education to the community so they can make better choices when it comes to repayment, make better choices when it comes to investing, creating wealth, or even creating a new way to pay off the debt sooner. Let’s work to secure a better future and bag for your offspring.

📸 Shotsbypriiincesss

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Beauty, Lifestyle

Mental Health Takeaway from The True Self Magazine by Muriam Cinevert.

There is nothing more beautiful than someone who goes out of their way to make life beautiful for others.” ― Mandy Hale

People will tell you that women don’t get alone, they can’t do business with each other or they are not supportive and that was a lie!!! Although, your vision may not be seen by many, there always will be a true supporter.
This was in the same contest True Self Mag was created by Muriam Cinevert.

What is True Self Mag?
True Self Magazine is the new number one publication marketing for voluptuous women and their businesses.  It was created to unleash, empower and encourage voluptuous women to express themselves unapologetically while making a difference globally.

What is the vision behind True Self Mag?

Creating a world where size doesn’t define you. You aren’t worth more when you are skinny and It doesn’t matter what kind of body you have. You are an amazing  human being, therefore you are worthy!
Here’s my mental health take away from this Magazine:
True beauty is about who you are as a human being, your principles, your moral. Many women struggle with low self-esteem, depression, lack of confidence because they think something is wrong with them.
Beauty is more than who you are on the outside, it is the wisdom and time you gave away to save another struggling soul like you.

True beauty doesn’t radiate from outer cosmetics, but from the simple joy of making a difference for those that need your voice and this is what True Self Magazine stands for.

Get you a free copy of the latest magazine. “The Ashley Stewarts Edition”

Website; www.trueselfmag.com
IG: true_self_mag
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Health, Lifestyle

Sexually Transmitted Diseases. Know the facts

Sexually Transmitted Disease. Know the facts

Nobody is immune to STD. I mean nobody!!! People with STDs usually have no symptoms.

Tons of people will not know if they are infected until permanent damage has occurred. While it is absolutely normal to enjoy sex,there are more than 30 STDs ( sexually transmitted diseases) you can contract and they are very unpleasant. STDs can cause things like open sores on your genitals which increase the chance of contracting more STDs because your body is immunocompromised.

Now, most STDs can be very serious, but there are some that are not. ( I’m not telling you to ignore them!🧐). Ex: something you can treat with over the counter drugs (crabs) or something that can actually kill you (syphilis).

If you think you or partner may have contracted an STD, please be mindful and seek help. You may still be infected even though the symptoms are gone.
Now, I know a lot of you have “EGO ISSUES” 🥴🙄 and will get offended when your partner ask you to get screened and it’s true🤷🏽‍♀️.
Sweep your ego right under that rug and go to that clinic to get yourself checked at least once a year. Remember, not having any symptoms is irrelevant.

If you or partner have any of these symptoms listed below, see a clinician right away.

1. Abnormal or smelly discharge from the vagina or penis. Gonorrhea for instance cause a green or yellow discharge,burning urination, pelvic pain and can cause premature labor and stillbirth as a result.
2. Blisters: Like herpes. Herpes usually associated with cold sore or fever blister and both forms may be sexually transmitted. (FYI: that is one reason not to let anyone kiss your babies)
3. Tenderness
4. Itches
5. Growths: Small pinkish-white, waxy-looking growth in the genital area or the tights
6. Chancres: Usually located on the genitals that doesn’t heal like a regular pimple.
7. Swellings.
8. Bleeding: Many of the STDs can cause tinged with blood in vaginal discharge or swelling of the groin.
9. Warts: Not always visible, grow on the genitals, anus, urethra and throat. They often itch and can lead to cancer of cervix, penis or vulva.

This is just a fraction of Sexually Transmitted Diseases and I promise to share more with you.

Let’s just say, I got your attention on how many STDs you can contract; why can’t you protect yourself or get tested?
Let me ask you this: Are you sexual active? Do you worry about catching something during sex? If the answer is YES; You have absolutely the right to worry. The most important question is: Do you know how to avoid getting one?

Here are my suggestions:

– Be selective when choosing a sex partner.
– Talk to your partner. It’s important to talk with your partner about STIs and practicing safe sex before you have sex.

– Get tested.
– Have less sexual partners.

– If you do have sex with more than one person, then protect yourself.
– Be responsible and take charge.
– If you notice any signs and symptoms,see a clinician.
I hope you guys learn something today. Please stay posted for much detailed information about each specific sexually transmitted disease.
Protect yourself!!!
Untill next time  ..
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